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The Stress Doc Letter
Cybernotes from the Online Psychohumorist ™


FEB 2007, No. I, Sec. I

Fight when you can
Take flight when you must
Flow like a dream
In the Phoenix we trust!

Table of Contents

Section I

Shrink Rap:  2006 Articles and Q & As
Love Q & A:  When Prozac and Viagra Meet in a "Youthful" Senior
Readers:  How to Speak Politically Correct, Even God Enjoys a Good Laugh
Testimonials:  Department of State/Family Liaison Office (FLO), DeLeon & Stang, CPAs
Heads Up:  Damascus, MD Public Library, DLA Piper (VA Law Firm), Pillsbury Winhrop (DC Law Firm), Federally Employed Women/NOAA

Section II 

Main Essay:  GLIDE-ing into Performance Excellence:  Part II -- "Learning to Love" -- Designing an Archetypal Pathway for "Self"-Discovery
Offerings:  Training/Marketing Kit and Books
 


Overview:  Sec. I

1) Shrink Rap:  Archive of 2006 Articles and Q & As

2) Love Q & A:  I read your discussion on Prozac and found it informative and revealing.  I am taking 30mgs for minor Tourettes...also mild depression due to an invalid wife with MS..so no sex with another woman for 12 years...I have someone the last few years...I take Viagra...to get to the problem...sex is great enjoyment but no ejaculation...I am a young 76....play tournament tennis and golf...are u impressed?...I am greatly concerned about the absence of orgasm...any suggestions?  Would really appreciate your help.
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Overview:  Sec. II

1) Main Essay:  Designing an Archetypal Pathway for "Self"-Discovery.  As part of his "Performance Excellence" series, the Stress Doc reflects on "learning to love" along with the stages of creative discovery -- psychological incubation culminating in an altered state experience, followed by spontaneous and systematic model building and engagement with the real world.  More specifically, he illuminates the process of transforming a seemingly mystical moment into, for him, an unprecedented artistic and non-theistic spiritual undertaking.  The intuitive and conscious conception of an archetypal symbol is both a primal healing progression and a pathway to a deeper, holistic and higher Self.  However, when the irresistible force (personal creative process) meets immovable object (doctoral program standards) and the tension inexorably builds…something or someone has to give (or give up). Yet, when fueled by devotion, a compelling desire to learn and insight into one's genuine voice (even while wrestling with some grandiose tendencies) it is possible to survive both the highs of defiance and to surmount the lows of failure.  The keys:  listening within as well as learning to respect and reconcile the contradictions and opposites in one's inner and essential nature.
 

 
Shrink Rap:

2006 Articles and Q & As
 Click here: 2006 Index

JAN
Work Q & A:    Democratizing an Inequitable Work Distribution/Delegation System
Shrink Rap:    12 Tips for Beating Mostly Moderate Clinical Depression
Main Essay:    Sea of Tranquility:  Dealing with Employee Arrogance & Jealousy
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FEB
Work Q & A:   When a Boss Enables Tattling on Employees Everyone Suffers
Main Essay:    Vital and Creative Functions of Healthy Aggression
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MAR
Shrink Rap:  Finding the Pass and Passion in the Impasse
Main Essay:  On Becoming a Wise System
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MAY
Work Q & A:   Rudeness and Unfairness in the Workplace
Main Essay:    Six Keys to Building Consensus:  Skills, Steps and Strategies
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JUL
Work Q & A:    Conflict Intervention Strategies for Avoiding Workplace Negativity
Readers:         What popular song or poem best depicts BURNOUT??
Main Essay:     Why Being Contrary May Be Cognitive, Cool and Creative
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SEP
Shrink Rap:     Bridging East-West Cultural Differences and Interpersonal Defenses
Main Essay:     Confessions of a Type A Canoeist or Partnering for Dummies
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OCT
Shrink Rap:  On Becoming More Perceptually Objective, Empathic and Accurate
Main Essay:  GLIDE-ing into Performance Excellence:  Part I
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NOV
Shrink Rap--I: Program Picture and Testimonials; Fort Hood Herald Article:  "The Stress Doc," speaks to 1st Cavalry Division spouses
Shrink Rap--II:  The Stress Doc in the Hood (i.e., Ft. Hood)
Main Essay:  The Four "F"s of Holiday Friction
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DEC
Media:  KC newspaper interview examines holiday conflict-reducing strategies
Shrink Rap:  When "Less Is More" or The Value of Taming Your "Intimate FOE"
Main Essay:  GLIDE-ing into Performance Excellence:  Part II -- "Loving to Learn"
 


Stress Doc Love Q & A

Subj:  Delayed and Delayed
From: R

I read your discussion on prozac and found it informative and revealing.  I am taking 30mgs for minor Tourettes...also mild depression due to an invalid wife with MS..so no sex with another woman for 12 years...I have someone the last few years...I take Viagra...to get to the problem...sex is great enjoyment but no ejaculation...I am a young 76....play tournament tennis and golf...are u impressed?...I am greatly concerned about the absence of orgasm...any suggestions?  Would really appreciate your help.
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Sorry for the delay.  Not being an MD, I don't know enough about senior physiology, though I trust your description of being a young 76.  I had a 3-4 year period of limited potency and absence of satisfying orgasm, after the painful breakup of a relationship.  During that time I switched meds from Prozac to Effexor, and it's possible that as I had aged (from when I first started taking Prozac in my mid 40s) the serotonin was contributing to my reduced sexual function.  I have subsequently switched to Wellburin which is not Serotonin based.  Prozac is all serotonin based.  Effexor is a mix of serotonin and norepinephrine, I believe.  You might want to see if you can change to Effexor or try to reduce the amount of the Prozac.
 
However, in the last year I have reunited with an old girlfriend, someone who I am truly learning to love.  And, amazingly, much of my potency has returned.  So my conclusion is that I could no longer have truly satisfying sex unless there was a deep emotional connection.  So two questions:  how do you feel about your partner on an intimate level and is there any emotional conflict having two women in your life, knowing your wife is not having sex, etc.?
 
I wish you well in this exploration.
 
Hope this helps.  May I use your question (anonymously) as a basis for a Q & A in my newsletter?  Will also place you on my free mostly monthly newsletter list, sending some start-up stuff.  Enjoy!
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Mark....thanks for your informative response....just as I thought, your info was very helpful...especially when you use your own experiences .....certainly is refreshing to have someone be so open about themselves....you verified my confidence in writing you...I will try to follow your suggestions....you absolutely can use my question in your writings....thanks again ...R
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Thanks for your prompt and affirming response.  Thanks too for giving permission to anonymously use our exchange.  Glad we could both be open and real.  Best wishes on the journey.
 


Readers' Submissions:

Subj: How to Speak Politically Correct
From: PCorell@HOPSTEINER.com

HOW TO SPEAK ABOUT WOMEN AND BE POLITICALLY CORRECT:
1 She is not a "BABE" or a "CHICK" - She is a "BREASTED AMERICAN."
2. She is not "EASY" - She is "HORIZONTALLY ACCESSIBLE."
3. She is not a "DUMB BLONDE" - She is a "LIGHT-HAIRED DETOUR OFF THE INFORMATION SUPERHIGHWAY."
4. She has not "BEEN AROUND" - She is a "PREVIOUSLY-ENJOYED COMPANION."
5 . She does not "NAG" you - She becomes "VERBALLY REPETITIVE."
6. She is not a "TWO-BIT HOOKER" - She is a "LOW COST PROVIDER."

HOW TO SPEAK ABOUT MEN AND BE POLITICALLY CORRECT:
1. He does not have a "BEER GUT" - He has developed a "LIQUID GRAIN STORAGE FACILITY."
2. He is not a "BAD DANCER" - He is "OVERLY CAUCASIAN."
3. He does not "GET LOST ALL THE TIME" - He "INVESTIGATES ALTERNATIVE DESTINATIONS."
4. He is not "BALDING" - He is in "FOLLICLE REGRESSION."
5. He does not act like a "TOTAL ASS" - He develops a case of "RECTAL-CRANIAL INVERSION."
6. It's not his "CRACK" you see hanging out of his pants - It's "REAR CLEAVAGE"
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Subj: EVEN GOD ENJOYS A GOOD LAUGH
From: PCorell@HOPSTEINER.com

There were 3 good arguments that Jesus was Black:
1. He called everyone brother .
2. He liked Gospel.
3. He couldn't get a fair trial.

But then there were 3 equally good arguments that Jesus was Jewish:
1. He went into His Father's business.
2. He lived at home until he was 33.
3. He was sure his Mother was a virgin and his Mother was sure He was God.

But then there were 3 equally good arguments that Jesus was Italian:
1. He talked with His hands.
2. He had wine with His meals.
3. He used olive oil.

But then there were 3 equally good arguments that Jesus was a Californian:
1. He never cut His hair.
2. He walked around barefoot all the time.
3. He started a new religion.

But then there were 3 equally good arguments that Jesus was an American Indian:
1. He was at peace with nature.
2. He ate a lot of fish.
3. He talked about the Great Spirit.

But then there were 3 equally good arguments the Jesus was Irish:
1. He never got married.
2. He was always telling stories.
3. He loved green pastures.

But the most compelling evidence of all - 3 proofs that Jesus was a woman:
1. He fed a crowd at a moment's notice when there was no food.
2. He kept trying to get a message across to a bunch of men who just didn't get it.
3. And even when He was dead, He had to get up because there was work to do.

AMEN and WOMEN
 


Testimonials:

Department of State/Family Liaison Office (FLO)

Jan 25, 2007

Dear Mark:

I have been meaning to thank you so much for the wonderful and energizing presentation you gave at the State Department.  As we discussed afterward, this can be a highly stressful environment, and we do tend to take ourselves just a bit too seriously!  It was extremely helpful to have you here to take us through some ways to creatively reduce our stress, and work together as a team.  Definitely fun AND worthwhile -- what an unusual combination!

Thanks again,

Leslie

Leslie Brant Teixeira
Deputy Director
Family Liaison Office (FLO)
Tel:  202-647-4626  Fax:  202-647-1670
Intranet:  http://hrweb.hr.state.gov/flo/index.html
Internet: http://www.state.gov/m/dghr/flo
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DeLeon & Stang, CPAs and Advisors
 
Jan 17, 2007
 
Thank you again for your fabulous workshop!  Everyone I have spoken with today thoroughly enjoyed it.  It was a good start to our busy season and a good way for us to further bond with our co-workers in a fun, nonthreatening way, especially with the "big bosses" in the room.  It showed them where some of the stress points really are during this time of year for us.  The drawing exercise was especially fun to see some of the  creativity in the room and the sharing of ideas and even that we all share some of the same issues and problems across all departments in the firm.  
 
Again, Thanks!
 
Jeanie Price
Director of Administration
DeLeon & Stang, CPAs and Advisors
OUR NEW ADDRESS:
100 Lakeforest Boulevard, Suite 650
Gaithersburg, MD 20877
ph 301-948-9825
fx 301-948-3220jeanie@deleonandstang.com
... improving the financial lives of our clients, our staff and our  community with integrity, trust and innovation.
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Heads Up:
Partial list of programs in Jan & Feb.  (Testimonials on request.)
1.  Damascus, MD Public Library, “Practice Safe Stress” Program
2.  DLA Piper (VA Law Firm), "Running on Empty" Program
3.  Pillsbury Winhrop (DC Law Firm), "Overcoming Procrastination" Program
4.  Federally Employed Women, "Managing Stress and Resolutions" Program
 


Mark Gorkin, LICSW, "The Stress Doc" ™, is a psychotherapist and "Motivational Humorist" whose Interactive Keynotes and Kickoffs draw wide and "amazing" acclaim - from Fortune 100s and Federal Agencies to around the world with Celebrity Cruise Lines.   An OD/Team Building Consultant, Mark is the author of Practice Safe Stress:  Healing and Laughing in the Face of Stress, Burnout & Depression and of The Four Faces of Anger: Transforming Anger, Rage, and Conflict Into Inspiring Attitude and Behavior.  Also, the Doc is AOL's "Online Psychohumorist" ™ running his weekly "Shrink Rap ™ and Group Chat."  See his award winning, USA Today Online "HotSite" -- www.stressdoc.com -- cited as a workplace resource by National Public Radio (NPR).  Finally, Mark is an advisor to The Bright Side ™ -- www.the-bright-side.org -- a multi-award winning mental health resource.  Email for his monthly newsletter showcased on List-a-Day.com.  For more info on the Doc's speaking and training programs, call or email the "Stress Doc":  301-946-0865 or stressdoc@aol.com .  And to view web video highlights of a Stress Doc Keynote, go to http://www.stressdoc.com/media_downloads.htm .

(c)  Mark Gorkin  2006
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